Author Archives: J Hannah Lloyd

The Angry Woman

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32)

An angry woman who is ready to explode should be listened to.

Excerpt from Book Tied to Terror: The term abuse is often ignored as most would rather the implication go away than to acknowledge its stain on society. But for those who are abused, shame, embarrassment, and internal degradation go hand in hand with this term.

Dishonor, the remains of abuse, brings internal humiliation, and sets the stage for anger.  Rage then sets in–not only over a lack of response, but also for a lack of concern from those who should care the most, but don’t.

It’s not unexpected for women in an abusive situation to become depressed, despondent, and unresponsive to life in general. But as time goes on, hope lags, and the joy of living all but disappears. Stumbling through life without goals or purpose then leads to thoughts of suicide. Depression is now at its peak and, if not nipped in the bud, could lead to death.

It’s sad when family members, and friends don’t care enough to provide assistance. Still, there is hope.

If no one is reaching out to you, then reach out to someone who truly cares. Women’s shelters will be your best source.

Don’t allow the anchor of an evil assailant keep you grounded in the darkness of abuse. From deep within, find strength to step out of your situation, and find freedom for mind, body, and soul.

To learn more, read my book.

Copyright © 2019 jhannahlloyd. All rights reserved.

A Violent Society Part Two

Violence is accepted in every society. Domestic violence and abuse is accepted in every culture of the world—even expected. Even in our own country, murder, rape, and abuse statistics are staggering.

Recently, well-known figures have dominated the news media  Surveillance cameras have also captured many episodes that expose a victim’s truth to the world.

Domestic violence is not an isolated issue; although women and children in this environment always feel isolated. And although we often equate victims as women; children are also victims. In a recent story, a South Carolina man killed his five children at the same time.

There are also times when women abuse and kill; although men are predominantly the abuser.
But now is the time to step up the plate, and expose the actions of abusers, violators, rapists, and dictators to the world; and pray that the world will understand that abuse in any capacity is never acceptable behavior.

Copyright © 2019 jhannahlloyd. All rights reserved.

To learn more, read my book.

 

Equality Act Domestic Violence and Abuse

Article by Mat Staver, LC Action Chairman: For battered women, a shelter may be their only option. Some escape with only the clothes on their back. Some don’t escape at all. Those who do, need a safe place to go.

The so-called “Equality Act” will hurt these women. It demands that every abused women’s shelter welcome men masquerading as women. It forces women to sleep, sometimes on cots in a shared room, with biological men. Or shower with them. Already this has caused horrific abuse of vulnerable women who have nowhere else to go.

These women deserve safety and protection as they try to put their lives back together. This bill would destroy their only chance at this. Will you send a fax immediately to urge our Senators to stop this horrific bill? – Mat Staver, LC Action Chairman

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To learn more about domestic violence and abuse, read my book.

 

Domestic Violence and Abuse~A Violent Society

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32)

Women who grow up in volatile environments often choose men who are the very epitome of hostile. And yes, this also happens in Christian homes. In fact, no society is exempt.

Women have long been degraded, misused, assaulted, raped, belittled, and abused–verbally, sexually, and physically; and often for someone’s personal advantage.

From the day of birth until they die, some will remain under the thumb of an abuser. It doesn’t matter the amount of money they have, or their status in life; when society accepts violence and abuse, women are the first to experience this takeover.

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To learn more, read my book.

 

 

 

Domestic Violence and Abuse~Stain on Society

Abuse and domestic violence are stains on society that require absolution and resolve. However, during the struggle, learn who to trust, and lean only on them.

“Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint” (Proverbs 29:19)

There are things others can do for you. But there are some things only you alone can do.

Decide what your life is worth. Then take action to escape your abuser. “Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to recompense tribulation to them that trouble you” (2 Thessalonians 1:6)

Remember. There is hope and help, and it comes from God above.

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To learn more, read my book.

 

 

 

 

Domestic Violence and Abuse~Inform yourself~Part Three

Inform yourself. Most abusers will make empty promises to stop the battering if threatened with exposure. Later he will plead forgiveness with a guarantee to change. Instead he will continue to control while resuming verbal and physical assaults. He now believes he’s home free as you have never followed through on any one threat to leave the relationship.

But once forgiven, he quickly forgets his promise to stop the abuse as he now realizes you’re not going anywhere. Some abusers will continue their pattern of control, violence, and abusive actions even after the completion of many counseling sessions. Getting help does not guarantee a partner will change.

At this point it may be time to make a more permanent decision. Do you want to continue living in an explosive situation, or is it time to get out?

Also key is to understand that violence does affect children. But it’s inappropriate to risk your life and their future just to save your marriage.  If abuse is rampant, even more essential is the need for safety. Don’t allow fear of the unknown to keep you, and your children, in harm’s way.

This information, and more, can be found in my book, shown below.

Copyright © 2019 jhannahlloyd. All rights reserved

To learn more, read my book.

 

Domestic Violence and Abuse~Inform Yourself~Part Two

Inform yourself. Domestic violence has long been a threatening entity with devastating results and irreversible consequences.  Abusers often develop deep emotional and psychological problems, sometimes filtering back to their own abused childhood.

Change is never easy, and often achievable for the abuser. Only his willingness to change will delegate his ability to reverse his actions. But he may never fully accept responsibility for his behavior, seek professional treatment, or recognize his role as an abuser. He cannot, however, blame others for his unhappy childhood, work related circumstances, drug or alcohol habits, or his temper. He alone is solely responsible for the choices he makes in his own life.                                                                                                                                                                                                  It’s natural to want to help your partner. After all, you did promise to love, honor, and cherish ‘till death do us part. You also believe it’s your responsibility to fix his problems because you alone understand everything about him. However, staying in the relationship, and accepting the abuse dumped on you, is only reinforcing the problem, and keeping the action alive.

Remember. It’s not your responsibility to fix his problems.

To learn more, read my book.

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Domestic Violence and Abuse~Inform Yourself~Part One

Inform Yourself. Read about others who have been abused, and survived. Find resources that will provide help with your situation. Or, locate a counseling group of peers who have also survived a similar violence.

Understand that knowledge is power, and appreciate the ability to share with others.  There’s always comfort in knowing you’re not alone.

Decide. When you are facing a decision to salvage your abusive relationship, or to leave, keep in mind that your abuser will continue to abuse if you remain. It will be difficult, if not impossible, to reverse those traits simply because he has a dominant personality. But in order to make an informed decision, research the statistics of domestic abuse relationships; and realize the signs aren’t pretty.

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To learn more, read my book.

 

 

Domestic Violence and Abuse~There is Hope

The effects of domestic violence and abuse are everywhere. It doesn’t take long to realize that someone you know, or love, is being abused.

Perhaps it’s you.

If so, be informed.

Read about others who have been abused, and survived.

Find resources that will provide help with your situation.

Or, locate a counseling group of peers who have also survived a similar violence.

Understand that knowledge is power. Appreciate the ability to share with others.  There’s always comfort in knowing you’re not alone.

There’s hope and security somewhere. Keep looking.

But remember to use caution when revealing your concerns to others. Not everyone can be trusted.

Copyright © 2019 jhannahlloyd. All rights reserved.

To learn more, read my book.